Me and my fiancé have known each other for about six years, but we’ve only been together for a fraction of that time. It’s funny to think about how six years ago we had no idea that we would end up together, and that in six short months from now, we will be becoming husband and wife. But that’s hardly anything new or surprising. What most people find fascinating, or even unbelievable, is the fact that we live on opposite sides of the world!
For those of you that don’t know, my fiancé, Nadeem, lives in the USA while I live in Australia. We met and bonded over being Hyderabadis living in the Western world, and even though we didn’t properly speak till two years later, we kept tabs on each other through social media (aka stalked each other online).
In the spirit of the upcoming Independence Days for India and Pakistan I’ve decided to base this week’s blog post on my somewhat rare experience of belonging to both these countries. For those of you who don’t know, my maternal family is from Hyderabad in India, while my paternal family is from Karachi, Pakistan.
Growing up as being Half-Indian and Half-Pakistani was pretty cool, but also pretty confusing. As a child I was jokingly asked by family and family friends which nationally I associated myself with. “Tum Mummy ke jaise Indian ho? Ya Papa ke jaise Pakistani?” “Are you Indian like your mum, or Pakistani like your dad?” I was unsure of my identity growing up and felt as though I had to pick and choose between who I was. I went back and forth between what I identified myself as, and it took me 20-odd years to fully appreciate myself as being both. Belonging to two countries that hold animosity for each other is difficult, and it’s had upsides and downsides. From my experiences, here are the perk and perils of being Half-Indian and Half-Pakistani:
Eid Mubarak everyone!
I’ve been MIA for some time, but like the Eid ka Chaand*, I have once again resurfaced! My website actually crashed a few months back, and I had to manually set it all up again, and re-upload previous posts. There were some things that I was unable to back up – but the general essence of the blog is the same!
I’ve picked up more classes at work, and now have four Year 11 classes that I teach, which is a whole lot of fun, but also a whole lot of work! Which is why it took me so long to get my blog back up and running, but now that the main job is done, I’m hoping to continue maintaining this space and uploading posts frequently!
Hope everyone celebrating had a blessed Eid!
See you guys soon,
*crescent moon sighted for the Muslim celebration of Eid
Happy New Year everyone! Just like that, another year done and dusted. Where is the time going?!
There’s been so much talk about how horrible a year 2016 was for everyone, but being a total optimist, I feel as though there’s always some good in the bad. The bad shapes you to be a stronger and wiser person, while the good times keep you moving forward. There’s always a bit of good in the bad, and a little bad in the good *yin yang style*. And as such, while 2016 was a trying year for some, I can’t help but focus on my highlights of the year.
Merry Christmas Everyone!
I absolutely love Christmas, like a lot of people, it’s my most favourite time of the year! There’s just something about the fairy lights, pretty decorations and joy in the air. Gotta love the Christmas spirit! What’s more, being an Aussie, this is the time of the year in which we have our Summer break. So Christmas to me, means holidays for weeks! Can’t be mad at that!